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Have you ever thought that you might actually know absolutely nothing about life and its realities? Have you ever questioned your belief systems and stopped believing the lies you have been told by your civilized society?

There is no denying the fact that your surroundings influence your thoughts and world views, in general. However, their knowledge and their life experiences aren’t always what they are portrayed as — true. Unfortunately, nobody ever told you that the lies were, well, just lies — meant to either make you feel good or let you down —which you adapted into universally accepted truths and eventually distorted your vision.

So now, how do you break free from the shackles of society? Take a look at the 10 biggest lies people love to tell you, and how you can and why you must stop believing them from now on…

1. Life Is A Struggle

Is it necessary to struggle so you can succeed in life? No, it isn’t. Life does not have to be made difficult in order to achieve success. Hard work pays, but so does smart work. When you are relaxed, consistent, and disciplined, you prioritize and complete your important tasks efficiently without feeling tired, frustrated and burdened. Remember: successful people often go to work to make their dreams a reality; they don’t refer to life or their work in a negative way. Life is beautiful: the passion you bring to your work is what typically leads to goals being met and dreams becoming reality — without the grind.

2. Life Is A Competition

Life is not a contest. Life is a journey, not a competition. You don’t live in a world where everyone has to kill/fight each other to prosper. The nature of universe is abundance and therefore, there are enough opportunities for everyone. Though healthy competition leads to innovation, shakes off complacency, and helps you focus on your core strengths, people often want competition to show that they are better off. Remember: fighting to win a competition to prove a point or to satiate your ego, ultimately leads to your own destruction. Life is beautiful: because we are all different, and because there are no winners or losers.

3. Nobody Is Perfect

We’re all damaged in our own way. Nobody’s perfect. I think we’re all somewhat screwy. Every single one of us. — Johnny Depp

Everybody is perfect in their own way, and everybody matters. How does it feel when others don’t respect your own unique way of understanding? What happens when they try to change you according to their way? Everybody makes mistakes, and every mistake matters. How do you succeed when you don’t know what failure brings? Remember: feel comfortable and be happy in your own skin; have the courage to follow your own path confidently. Life is beautiful: there are no mistakes in life, only lessons to be learned.

4. Time Is Precious

Then why do you kill time? The fact is, time is an illusion. Not how long, but how well you have lived, is what matters. You make life worth living – not by keeping your eyes constantly on years, months, weeks, days, hours, minutes and seconds, but by living your life and living it freely. Remember: your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Life is beautiful: spend your time on following your heart and intuition.

5. Money Makes You Happy

Can money buy you happiness? The truth is, money can only buy you happiness up to a point. After that, it starts ruling your life, sucks your energy, determines your relationships, and makes you imprisoned forever. Running after money is like trying to grab air: you can never have enough. Remember: there is no connection between having more money and being happy. Life is beautiful: flourish, but don’t become slave to your own ambition.

6. The Best Is Yet To Come

You have the most satisfying career, an outstanding lifestyle, modern gadgets, fit body, a loving and supportive family, and dreams for a bright future. Yet, the best is yet to come. Like, really? While there is nothing wrong in having a positive outlook, especially in a bad situation, it is equally important to be grateful for the things that you already have. Remember: if you’re constantly searching for the next best thing, you’re going to miss out on stuff you already possess. Life is beautiful: appreciate life, time is running out.

7. If It’s Meant To Be, It Will Happen

So you must accept destiny, right? Wrong. Only death is meant to be in life, nothing else is. Instead of waiting for the life to happen, go out and make it happen. Leave nothing up to fate, and you’ll never be disappointed. Remember: impossible is nothing. Life is beautiful: dare to dream; if you can dream it, you can do it.

8. To Make A Difference, You Need To Be Famous

If you want to make a difference in someone’s life, you don’t need to be gorgeous, rich, famous, brilliant, or perfect. You just have to care. — Karen Salmansohn

Actors, pop stars, politicians, authors, and sportspersons seem like the pinnacle of accomplishment. But it’s not. Remember: be productive, be useful, be compassionate, and do things for people who will never pay you back. Life is beautiful: to make a difference, all you need is the intention to do the right thing.

9. Everything Happens For A Reason

No, it doesn’t. Sometimes, there are no lessons to be learned; life just happens. You can’t analyze everything that happens in your life as some sort of cosmic sign trying to tell you something. Remember: over thinking takes you away from your present. Life is beautiful: don’t pretend that if you wouldn’t have spilled that drink, your life would be any different.

10. If You Love Someone, Let Them Go; If They Return, They Were Always Yours

Well, if you genuinely love someone, why would you give up and let that person go? And, if you genuinely love someone, yet you let that person go, why would you sit around and wait for him/her to come back? What if they don’t return – would it mean you didn’t matter to them? Remember: if a relationship doesn’t work, it is absolutely okay to move on. Life is beautiful: fall in love, again.

Source:http://anonhq.com/10-biggest-lies-life-truth-will-set-free/

How do you stay happy all the time? Is it possible and is there any proof that these ways can work? In this post I want to show you 10 ways that are scientifically proven. If this does not convince you, then I do not know what will!

1. Exercise more

Lots of studies on this one. Exercising releases the good mood endorphins so that you are always in a better mood after a workout or simply a walk to the supermarket. I have never met a person in a bad mood after a workout! But where is the scientific evidence?

The University of Toronto did a great job on this and analyzed no less than 25 research studies. The conclusion was that physical activity can and does help to keep depression at bay.

The best study I know is where three groups of depressed people are put on a regime of anti-depressants, exercise or a combination of the two. No surprise to know that all three groups were happier, but did it last? Six months later, the group who had been treated with exercise only, had a very low relapse rate of 9%. The other two groups had relapsed and how! Their rates were ranging from 38% to 31%, so about a third of them were now depressed again.

2. Positive thinking affects your performance

“Happiness is the precursor to success.” – Shawn Achor

Sounds like pie in the sky? Well, according to Shawn Achor, if he knows everything about what factors are impinging on your happiness such as stressors, hassles, successes, economic circumstances, relationships and so on, then he can only predict 10% of your long term happiness. The remaining 90% is how you process the world around you. If happiness is on the other side of success, it is unlikely you will get there as you continually strive to get better grades, higher salaries and so on.

Positive thinking raises energy levels, creativity and productivity by as much as 30%. The secret is to use positive thinking now, rather than when you are rich and famous. Watch the video below for a very entertaining outline of this.

3. Trash your negative thoughts

Some people are overwhelmed by their negative thoughts and they have real problems in getting rid of them. A University of Madrid study found that by actually writing these thoughts down on a piece of paper and then destroying them was effective. They recommended that you either tear them up, throw them in the trash or burn them! The fact of discarding them physically does help in reducing their toxic effects. Psychologists suggest doing this on a regular basis.

4. Treasure your experiences more than your possessions

Thomas Gilovich, a psychologist at Cornell University has done quite a lot of research as to why it is better to treasure memorable and pleasant experiences rather than the material things we buy. There are many reasons for this as outlined in his study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Comparing possessions and looking at better objects after purchase can be demoralizing and ruin the initial pleasure we got when purchasing and taking possession of that new car, TV or computer.

But treasuring experiences is not nearly as destructive. They belong to us, they are special and they provide longer lasting happiness. We should always aim to visit a new place or just go trekking. Local authorities should be able to provide the facilities in towns and cities so that people may experience more enjoyable and pleasurable activities, rather than building more shopping malls.

5. Write down why you are grateful

Feeling and thinking about the things you are grateful for as you wake up is a great way to build more happiness.

Research on our brain shows that we always tend to focus on the negative things of life like those worries, tragedies, failures, and discontent. Negativity is the default position.

“We’ve got this negativity bias that’s a kind of bug in the stone-age brain in the 21st century,” – Rick Hanson, neuropsychologist.

This is why we need to focus on the good and more especially, we need to hone in on what we should be grateful for. There are various ways you can do this. Here are some ideas:

When you wake up, remind yourself mentally of three things that you can be grateful for.
Some people prefer to write down three things and keep the list to remind themselves every now and again.
Use Twitter or Facebook if you feel inclined. Useful to remind your followers that this does actually work.
Express gratitude by phoning your significant other or by treating a colleague to coffee for their help with a project or task.
Try giving back by helping a person or by volunteering for a few hours a week.

But is there any scientific proof that this actually works? Check out this link to see just some of the numerous studies on gratitude.

6. Practise mindfulness

What does mindfulness mean? It just means that you concentrate and pay full attention to the present moment and accept it in a non-judgmental way. This is now becoming a popular trend in psychology and medicine. When done regularly it can boost mood, reduce stress levels, and lead to a better quality of life.

Focus on the present moment means that you can savor touch, smell and other physical sensations but also happy feelings. Concentrate on the joy they are giving you. It is really effective in forgetting about the past and not fretting about future, fearful scenarios.

But can this really make us happier and what is the scientific evidence? Watch the video where Harvard researcher Matt Killingsworth explains that we are happier when we are mindful of the moment and the least happy when the mind is wandering all over the place. He has come to this conclusion after studying 15,000 people!

7. Don’t forget your beauty sleep

When you do not get enough sleep, your negativity takes over big time. This was the conclusion researchers came to after several experiments. One of these is particularly interesting. The researchers homed in on the hippocampus which is the part of the brain which processes our positive thoughts. When we are sleep deprived, this function starts to creak and negative thoughts muscle in much more than before.

To illustrate this, researchers asked sleep deprived students to remember a list of words. They were getting a high score on all the negative words (81%) but when it came to the positive ones or neutral ones, they were only getting about 31% of these right. Dr.Robert Stickgold has conducted similar experiments on sleep and memory. Now you know why people are always in a bad mood when they do not get enough sleep.

8. Dedicate a little time to helping others

People buy bigger houses, cars and phones but it does not seem to increase their overall happiness in the long term, although it might cause a brief spike in happiness. That is short lived. Researchers have found that when we dedicate a little time or money to helping others, this has a significant effect on our own happiness.

9. Focus on the life you want to live

“The heart goes where the head takes it, and neither cares much about the whereabouts of the feet.”- Dr. Daniel Gilbert.

We often talk about winning the lottery and where we would go and above all what we would buy. We might even talk about giving to charity. But we never or rarely talk about what our state of mind would be and how much happier and carefree we would be. This is why focusing on priorities to get the life you want to live is so important.

10. Focus on your strengths

Are you curious, open-minded or brave? How are you using these strengths to improve your life and that of others? These are key questions but people who exploit their strengths rather than dwelling on their weaknesses are generally much happier.

Being able to realize our full potential through exploiting our strengths is one of the best ways of finding happiness and helping to make the world a better place.

Source:http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication

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